In my work I’m often struck by a reliance on leadership to provide permission for a colleague to help a colleague. Whether it relates to a behavioural issue, a mistake or poor wellbeing many point to a failure of the leaders in the setting. I’ve spent the last 17 years using a framework of personal … Continue reading You Don’t Need a Leader to Be a Good Friend
Why Do We Reject Narcissists in Our Personal Lives but Follow Them in Public?
The Role of Critical Awareness and Active Bystandership Most of us have encountered a narcissistic person at some point in our lives. It may have been a colleague who took credit for everyone else’s work, a friend who always made every conversation about themselves, or a family member who refused to accept responsibility for their … Continue reading Why Do We Reject Narcissists in Our Personal Lives but Follow Them in Public?
The Swimming Pool Lesson: What My Granddaughter Taught Me About Active Bystandership
At the weekend I was in the swimming pool with my three-year-old granddaughter Arra, when I noticed something that made me smile. She wasn’t just splashing in the water or clinging to the side. She was watching. Her eyes moved from child to child, taking in what they were doing, how they were behaving, and … Continue reading The Swimming Pool Lesson: What My Granddaughter Taught Me About Active Bystandership
The Most Important Intervention Happens Before You Say a Word – Why active bystandership begins with what people believe about themselves and how cultures support believe.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” — commonly attributed to Henry Ford Whether Henry Ford actually uttered those exact words is uncertain. Historians debate the attribution, but the sentiment has endured because it captures a truth about human behaviour that is highly relevant to active bystandership. Long before someone … Continue reading The Most Important Intervention Happens Before You Say a Word – Why active bystandership begins with what people believe about themselves and how cultures support believe.
There’s Power in Bearing Witness – Why Your Presence Is Your Superpower
Look at this image. It’s a question I ask participants in all of my trainings. Focus on the man, arms folded, wearing a checked shirt. In front of him and the others present a man is being slowly suffocated, by serving Minneapolis police officer Derek Chauvin. He’s simply standing there. Others in front of him … Continue reading There’s Power in Bearing Witness – Why Your Presence Is Your Superpower
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