A more positive conversation with and about young men is not about minimising harm or protecting male feelings. It is about effectiveness. If the goal is to reduce violence, challenge abusive norms, and create cultures where men intervene early when something is going wrong, then young men need to be engaged as part of the … Continue reading Why we need a more positive conversation with young men about violence
Violence is a men’s issue. That doesn’t mean what some people think it means.
The moment you describe violence as “a men’s issue”, someone will inevitably reply: “Not all men.” They’re right. Not all men commit violence. Not all men harass women. Not all men abuse their partners. But that’s never been the point. The real question isn’t whether all men are violent. The question is whether men have … Continue reading Violence is a men’s issue. That doesn’t mean what some people think it means.
We Know Who. But Will We Ever Ask Why?
The image is difficult to look at. Three young men walk away from a scene where another young man, Kayden Moy, has been fatally stabbed. It is an image that captures something almost impossible to comprehend. The violence has already happened, yet life appears to continue as if nothing has changed. It is chilling. The … Continue reading We Know Who. But Will We Ever Ask Why?
What Peter Pan Can Teach Us About Active Bystandership
This morning I’m sitting watching the original Peter Pan with my three-year-old granddaughter Arra. It’s her first time seeing it. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve watched this as a kid and with my own daughters. Watching it through her eyes reminded me that some of the most powerful lessons about human … Continue reading What Peter Pan Can Teach Us About Active Bystandership
Disturb the Silence: Why the Royal Navy Is Stronger When People Speak Up
“Hello darkness, my old friend…” Few song lyrics are as recognisable as those from Simon & Garfunkel’s The Sound of Silence. The song speaks of isolation, disconnection, and people who, despite seeing problems, fail to speak. While written in a very different context, its central idea remains relevant today: silence has consequences. In military organisations, … Continue reading Disturb the Silence: Why the Royal Navy Is Stronger When People Speak Up
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